I am often asked by couples who are planning their wedding ceremony, â€œWhat can I do for a unity ceremony besides a unity candle?â€ For outdoor weddings, it is often difficult to keep candles lit with even the slightest breeze, so many times I have suggested a sand ceremony as a flame-free alternative. As sand ceremonies have become extremely popular over the past few years, I am now asked by a lot of brides for more creative and personalized options to the sand ceremony.
At the El Conquistador Resort, a Waldorf Astoria resort in San Juan, Puerto Rico, one of their wedding officiants performs a unique unity ceremony that I want to share with you! Itâ€™s called a Honey Ceremony and it will not only wow your guests on your wedding day, but will become an anniversary tradition for a lifetime!
The resort provides a small bottle of locally produced Puerto Rican honey (a nice touch to incorporate your destination wedding location) during the ceremony for the bride and groom to each dip a finger into, and are invited to taste the sweetness of the honey. This symbolizes how sweet you vow to be to each other every day of your marriage. You can customize vows for this, perhaps adding a bit of your own personality and sense of humor, pledging kindness, consideration, and caring that is as sweet as honey.
On your anniversary, you can each taste the honey again and renew your promise to your partner as a remembrance of your wedding vows. The El Conquistador Resort’s wedding planners even suggest providing a small bottle of honey to your guests as favors, to remember your wedding and their own wedding day promises!
A few Honey Ceremony planning tips:
If you donâ€™t want sticky fingers, arrange to haves small spoons for the honey. Also, donâ€™t forget to make your honey favors smaller than the required size for airline carry-on baggage (you donâ€™t want guests forced to leave the honey behind or have it confiscated at security). Donâ€™t forget to go over your plans with your wedding officiant to incorporate this unique unity ceremony! Customize your honey to the area where youâ€™re getting marriedâ€”it will literally add some local flavor to your wedding.
My thanks to the ‘Bride Whisperers‘ of the El Conquistador Resort in San Juan, PR for sharing this unique unity ceremony idea!