The most memorable weddings are the ones where the bride and groom are engaged with one another and with their guests. There is no doubt that it can be hard work smiling all day and night, posing for photos, dancing, and chatting up 150 of your closest friends and family, but if you follow these tips, your guests will marvel at what an amazing groom you are.
1. Before the wedding, review your guest list and become familiar with who’s attending. This will help you remember to whom you are being introduced on the wedding day.
2. Don’t consume too much alcohol. I don’t want to be a party pooper, but if you’re hung over from the rehearsal dinner or sloppy drunk during the wedding reception, your photos will be terrible and it will be much harder for you to make small talk with your guests. Party as hard as you’d like at the bachelor party and on your honeymoon, but be conservative at your wedding.
3. Prior to the ceremony, mingle with guests as they arrive. Talking with your friends and family will also help relieve pre-wedding jitters.
4. Write your bride a note and have it delivered to the room where she is getting ready. Tell her how much you love her and how excited you are to start spending your life together as husband and wife.
5. Put out fires. Your bride likely did the bulk of the planning up to the big day. If you see something that might upset her, do your best to step in and fix it, even if that means asking for help from your groomsmen or family members.
6. Give a welcome speech. Thank your guests for coming, thank your new in-laws for throwing such an amazing party (if applicable), and toast your beautiful bride. You will make your family proud.
7. Go table to table with your bride and visit your guests. It’s tempting to hang with your buddies at the bar, but it’s proper etiquette to personally speak with each of your guests.
8. Stay on the dance floor as much as you can. Dance with your new wife, with your mom, your sister and your aunt. Help make shy guests feel a part of the festivities by asking them to join you on the dance floor.
9. Don’t leave your bride alone. Make sure when you are on the dance floor she has a dancing partner as well. Take time to have intimate conversations with her and hold her hand as often as possible.
10. Being a great host doesn’t end with the wedding day. Make sure you help your bride write thank you notes after the honeymoon.
If you follow these tips, you’re bound to wow your guests as well as your bride. Then you can head off to enjoy your honeymoon! If you have any tips for grooms or questions about wedding etiquette, please let me know in the comments.