Here in Central Florida, we book a number of destination weddings about 12 months before the wedding date, but we also book many that are a month or less out. We’ve learned that some couples just want to get married as quickly and with as little fuss as possible, and others love taking plenty of time to plan and make decisions.
Today we’re looking at long engagements. What are some of the reasons you might want to have one? What are some of the downfalls? Let’s break it down:
-You can get your planning out of the way. There’s something to be said about just enjoying being engaged for a while without the added stress of planning the wedding. A long engagement will allow you time to figure out your life plans for after the wedding, like where you want to live and how the finances will be handled.
-Many (if not all) of your preferred wedding vendors will be available. A wedding date far into the future makes it more likely that you won’t be competing with many other couples for the wedding services you want.
-If you want to include some DIY projects, you have plenty of time to tackle them. DIY isn’t always the cheaper or easier option, but for some brides, it’s the only way to go. You need time to order supplies and complete each project.
-You have time to set fitness goals and keep them.
-You give your guests and wedding attendants time to save up for it. On top of that, you’ll have more time for saving, too!
-If you’re a bride, you can have your choice of bridal gowns. Wedding dresses (unless they’re off the rack) take many months to order and alter. Having plenty of time before the wedding makes this less of an issue.
-You can get bogged down in making decisions. With so many available service vendors and thousands of wedding magazines and websites to view, it might be harder for you to make your decisions. I know a bride who booked most of her wedding services within two months of getting engaged, and then started adding more and more throughout her long engagement because she felt like she wasn’t doing enough. She more than doubled her budget!
-It’s likely you won’t have as much choice in your venue and vendors. Pricing for available vendors might be at a premium, too, depending on how quick your wedding is coming up.
-With too much time, it’s easy to put things off. It’s surprising how many couples still race to the finish line after a long engagement. They feel as though they have all the time in the world, and then the big day is suddenly looming.
-Feeling like you’re “never the bride/groom.” If you have friends who are also engaged, you may find yourself attending multiple weddings, all while waiting for your wedding day to arrive. For some couples, that’s tough!
-You’ll hear from the naysayers. Be prepared for, “Why are you waiting so long?” or “I hope I live that long so I can attend” or “Are you sure he/she really wants to marry you?” from family members who think the wedding should happen sooner.
Did you decide to have a long engagement? Let us know about your experience!
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