It’s no secret that wedding planning takes a lot of time and effort. Sometimes it demands so much from us that we forgo other necessities — lunch breaks or even sex — in order to get it done. “For many couples, planning becomes so intense and overwhelming, they almost forget why they are doing all the planning — to celebrate a loving bond,” explains Gloria Brame, sexologist and author of The Truth About Sex: A Sex Primer For The 21st Century. But “sex is the glue that binds together a romantic relationship,” and with that in mind, here are three tips make sure wedding planning doesn’t wreck your sex life or your relationship.
__Make honeymoon sex part of the planning process. __
In between picking out your centerpieces and plotting your guest list, “plan your honeymoon sex with your partner,” Brame suggests. “Instead of surprising them on the wedding night, go shopping together and get turned on by the anticipation. Planning out a honeymoon sex fantasy will keep you buzzed for the main event,” and could even ignite a passionate spark now.
Prioritize your future spouse.
“So many brides fall down the rabbit-hole of planning details with their female relatives and partying with their girlfriends that the groom starts to feel left out — maybe even a little insecure or lonely,” Brame explains. If that’s the case, then it’s no wonder sex has taken a backseat. “Don’t forget the most important person in your life is the one you’re going to marry,” cautions Brame. “Keep him as close as possible, and give him all the love and affection he’s come to expect from you.”
Consider sex now practice for later.
When you’ve got a million-and-one wedding-related items to check off your to-do list, sex can seem like a luxury, not a necessity. But what if you viewed learning to “be a better lover as a wedding gift to your partner?” Brame asks. Could sex once again become one of your must-do action items? “Read up on new techniques to give and receive pleasure, learn some new foreplay techniques, and build better after-play skills,” she suggests. “Get your partner to do some reading and learning, too, and help him develop his more sensual side. The bigger your sexual repertoire, the more chances for a fun sex life forever.”