Our Head Over Heels couples came to us with questions about toasts at their weddings.

The discussion centered around two simple things – who and when!

So, we went to some of our Perfect Wedding Guide experts in planning, catering and other vendors who wanted to weigh in.

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Who Should Toast

The answer to this one is really simple and really difficult. The more people who offer toasts, the longer it takes, and the less time you have to dance later on in the reception.

It is always appropriate to have a welcome, often times professionals see that it is one of the parents; especially if they are hosting the event. It is also an excellent option if you as the newlyweds offer this welcome.

The other people toasting are typically the Honor Attendants (Best Man/Maid of Honor) as these people as in many cases siblings or besties who know you really well.

How Long Is Too Long

When inviting people to make toasts ask them to keep them to about five minutes, no longer than seven minutes; too long and people tune them out.

In addition to short and sweet make sure they know that this is not a tell-all biography of your life with stories that are best kept for a time without your grandparents and the whole family in the room.

Sooner vs. Later

When it comes to when, earlier is better, and our professionals shared a lot of practical reasons as to why.

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Most of the caterers we spoke to want it early because from a service standpoint they can get the champagne poured as guests are entering the room and cleared, so they aren’t climbing over guests as they begin eating.

Wedding planners shared that they prefer early because the later in the night you wait, the better the chance you have that people toasting may already be in party mode.

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Photographers seem to have strong opinions too. Most shared that they like toasts before dinner so they can get photos of the couple during the toasts without them being in mid-bite and without dirty dishes on the table.

And lastly, DJs seemed to like them early as people are focused on what is going on, in the room and not wandering around; and so that later in the night they can get people dancing.

All great answers to keep your reception on track.

One other piece of advice shared with us is that as the couple being toasted; people are honoring you, and beautiful glass should stay on the table. You actually don’t raise a glass to honor yourself.

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We love when our Perfect Wedding Guide wedding experts share their advice, thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts!



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