Writing your own vows is the most vulnerable way for you to tell your friends and family how you feel about your spouse.
It makes your ceremony more personal and unique to your love story. It can be hard to decide on what you really want to share and how you want to share it, especially if you aren’t a natural writer.
The key to feeling confident about writing your own vows is to start early!
The last few weeks before your wedding will be hectic with all of the other planning details, your vows shouldn’t be one of them. That way, when you reread them as the day gets closer, you only need to make small changes.
Start out with a list or bullet points of what you want to talk about.
Like any writing assignment, you’ll need an outline and multiple drafts. Your vows won’t be perfect the first time you put pen to paper, and that’s totally okay!
Since vows are so personal, it’s a good idea to start finding your inspiration through something you both love.
Incorporating quotes from your favorite books, movies, or music can be a fun way to show your love to your spouse.
Sharing memories from your relationship so far is a great way to emphasize the reasons you love your soon-to-be-spouse and how you ended up at the altar!
There’s nothing wrong with using other vows as inspiration, whether they are from a friend’s wedding or the internet (cue Pinterest). Sometimes a little brainstorming can put you in the exact right mindset!
Make sure that you use your vows to make promises to your spouse, promises that you intend to keep.
Your vows are the way that you commit to your relationship and what you will bring to your marriage.
No matter where you choose to draw inspiration from, your vows are guaranteed to induce a few tears from your loved ones. It is the most special way to share your love for one another in front of your family and friends!