Organize Your Own Wedding Rehearsal

Organize Your Own Wedding Rehearsal

We’re so lucky to get some great advice about organizing your wedding rehearsal from Lesley at Indy Get Married. Lesley is the Presiding Officiant there and whether you’re saying I Do in Indianapolis– or elsewhere– you’re sure to find her advice on point!

There is plenty to drive yourself crazy with when it comes to wedding planning. The abundance of details is enough to make any bride and groom take the first flight to a deserted island to tie the knot. The wedding rehearsal is one of those details that tends to take a backseat. Then it dawns on you, “OMG, we have no plan and our wedding is next week!”
Regardless if you’re in a pinch for time or money. There is no reason you can’t organize this yourself with a little helpful direction. This guide will help you put the rehearsal events in their place. Then you can continue to concentrate on your main event.

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Designated Coordinator

Every successful event has a point-person, and in this case, that shouldn’t bethe bride or groom. In fact, (if that is you) read this article only so youknow who to give it to later to help you with this event. A Designated personshould handle the coordination of your rehearsal. Which should also be theindividual who will handle this task on the day of your ceremony. This meansthis person shouldn’t be “in” the wedding.

This is the perfect opportunity to offer a special person an official role in your event. Perhaps a person that didn’t make the wedding party list? Not only will they be happy to do it, you’ll make them feel super special by doing so. Choose the person who is kind but direct and has a way of
getting people organized and focused.

Rehearsal Lineup

It’s natural to think in story format when doing a wedding rehearsal (abeginning, middle and end) but I’m going to suggest your start in the middle ofthe story.

The entrance and exit are more confusing. It’s better to start with everyone inthe place at the altar. Or the place where they will be during the
ceremony to begin the rehearsal. It’s more difficult to walk somewhere when youdon’t know where you’re going.

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Use this time to position people in their respective spots. Consider details like height and consider how this will look in your photographs. There is no right or wrong way to line up your wedding party! Do what feels natural for your ceremony and have discussed with your officiant. Try moving people around and placing them at different angles until you get the look you’re going for.

Talk Your Ceremony Through

While everyone is in place, talk through the main points of the ceremony. It’snot necessary to read it word for word or even say your vows, leave yourceremony fresh and new for the main event. This part of your rehearsal willgive everyone a decent idea on what happens when. Practice
with wedding party guests who have responsibilities in your ceremony. Such asrings, candles, flower hand offs and other tasks.
If your ring bearer is a young child, I recommend having the best man and maidof honor keep the actual rings to hand to you. The ring bearer can carry thepillow down the aisle, or even a sign instead… for example, something thatreads “Here comes the Bride”.

Have any tables in place and practice any special union you have planned. Likethe sand, candle, hand-fasting, etc… Don’t forget the lighter for thecandles! I also would like to add, if you are outdoors doing the candleceremony, it might be hard to keep the candles lit.

Consider doing a different union ceremony. Find ideas on all the different
special elements you can add to your wedding ceremony scripts here.

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Move Them Out

Now that you have the ceremony laid out, it’s time to work on walking out, orthe “recessional”. Before everyone makes a mad dash at the same time,let’s go over how this should go down. The bride and groom were pronouncedmarried. Turn around, look at all your loved ones and take a second to takeeverything in.

Once you are introduced by your Officiant, head out down the aisle with your happy dance or however you wish. I recommend that the rest of the bridal party should wait until the married couple are completely down the aisle to start their dismissal. Give the Bride and Groom that moment to themselves before following behind them.
Each pair of Bridesmaid and Groomsmen can then come together in the middle and head out down the aisle. Keep spacing in mind when walking out. Use a “landmark” to help your wedding party determine when the next couple should follow. This can be a certain row of seats, a pillar in the church hall, or when all else fails… count to 15-30 depending on the space. Your photographer will be forever grateful you’ve given them time to get the right photos without other bodies in the way.

Turn it Around

Now your party is at the back of the ceremony space awaiting to practice theirwalk in, or processional. Depending on everyone’s position, they might alreadybe in order. It’s a good idea to stay in order once you are down the aislesince we will be practicing the “Procession” next. If not, leteveryone reorganize themselves into the correct order with (the coordinators)direction. Your coordinator will be able to alert each wedding party member orcouple when they will be entering.

It will be their job to figure out the best spacing for this part of the event.Again, leave plenty of room so your photographer has enough time to get greatphotos.

Pro tip- For the photographer’s sake… I always coordinate a spot for the bridal party to pause for a few seconds for their picture.

The Hand Off

The last element of your rehearsal should be the hand off between bride and escort.This is a meaningful and touching moment for many ceremonies. So, it will begood to spend a few extra minutes to get it right. Help the bride and escorttime their walk given what kind of dress the bride is wearing. As an Officiant,I always get with the DJ to let them know I will wait for the Procession songto fade off. Then I can speak to the person escorting the Bride and start theceremony. Most experienced DJ’s know to do this. Pause between song transitionfrom bridal party to Bride entrance…. This is the best time for the Officiantto ask the guests to rise for the Bride.

So, everyone is down the aisle, the escort approaches the altar with the Bride.I like to ask the escort and Bride to stop a few steps before arrivingcompletely at the Altar. This way the Groom can step down, shake hands or hugthe escort. Take the Bride by the hand and step up together to the Altar. It’sa nice detail but not necessary. The bride will then hand off her bouquet tothe Maid of Honor and begin the ceremony. Rinse and Repeat- You made it!

Now that everyoneknows what they are doing and when. It’s time to practice the whole thing againto make sure everyone feels confident. Do a second run through to gage the flowof the ceremony and if it fails you can always do it a third time. This entireprocess shouldn’t take more than 30- minutes depending on the size of yourwedding party.

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Some Extra Tips:

This is a guide and isas flexible depending on the unique ceremony you’re planning. I have seen someoriginal and one of a kind ideas at weddings, so use this as your foundationguide for your rehearsal.
My LGBTQ friends, this can be adjusted to ensure everyone is
comfortable and considered. Be sure to ask me how to do that if you’re confusedor need more help.

● Make sure your officiant knows who is entering “before” the bride. So, theycan make an announcement for guests to stand and receive the briderespectfully. This is in case your Officiant is not the person coordinating therehearsal and does not know exactly who is in your bridal party. Most of thetime the flower girl enters before the Bride, but not always do couples chooseto include a flower girl.

● Stress can play a major role in how things go during a ceremony. In fact, didyou know that stress can cause your hands to swell a bit? This can betroublesome during the ring exchange and cause the bride or groom
to panic. Place the ring to the right finger and don’t worry if it won’t slideon completely. The bride can finish sliding the ring on her finger. Or ViceVersa… Rather than having a tug-a-war during the ceremony.

Congratulations!! By practicing with this guide, your Wedding Day is bound to run smoother by 90%. The rehearsal events don’t have to take long with a little planning and organizing. As a bride or groom, your biggest decision is finding the right person for the job.
Most Venues have a site coordinator that will help with this. The best person to help would be your Wedding Officiant. If you would like help in officiating your wedding, be sure to reach out to me, The Presiding Officiant at Indy Get Married.


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