Part II: The Big Send-off (Addressing and Mailing Invitations, RSVPs)
Addressing Envelopes: Handwritten vs. Typed Out
Most wedding experts will agree that it’s a BIG no-no to type out addresses on outer invitation envelopes. (Besides, there’s just something special about receiving a note or card in the mail with a handwritten, personal feel). Wedding calligraphers provide an invaluable service, specializing in exquisitely written invitations for happy couples. However, if you haven’t budgeted for a professional calligrapher, you could invite over your bridesmaids, wedding friends, and others to help get the job done. (Just make sure that everyone you ask to address envelopes has neat and legible handwriting!)
Time Frame for Mailing Wedding Invitations
There is more flexibility to this rule, as the length of engagement may vary with each couple. But for tradition’s sake, wedding invitations are normally mailed out two months (eight weeks) before the day of the wedding. If you’re planning a wedding in less time, send invitations at least two to three weeks in advance. Lastly, if your wedding is scheduled around a holiday or busy travel season, "Save the Date" cards are great to send prior to mailing the actual wedding invitation so that guests may begin booking flights, hotels and making other necessary arrangements.
Sending Response Cards
Response cards play a major logistical role in coordinating a wedding. Response cards, or RSVPs, are used to plan seating charts, gather entree preferences of your guests, and budget for food and beverage consumption. Guests should send in all responses at least three weeks prior to the wedding. Also, for your guests’ convenience, be sure to include a self-addressed, stamped envelope for the response card inside the wedding invitation.
Although many brides and grooms follow traditional wedding invitation etiquette when spreading the word on their nuptials, it is simply a matter of individual preference. As a couple, it is ultimately up to you to decide which wedding invitation style best reflects your personality, and most importantly, the tone and mood of your wedding day.
Image courtesy of Cheree Berry Paper