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Wedding Toasts and Speeches: A How To

The pressure to make a speech or toast in public can be a daunting task for many. But it doesn't have to be. The best way to avoid these common fears of delivering a wedding toast or speech is to know what you want to say ahead of time and then prepare. Here, tips on how to give a great wedding toast or speech to raise up your friends and loved ones.

The most important thing to remember when making wedding planning assignments, the wedding speech giver will be representing you in many ways. Pick someone you trust, make sure that the person feels extremely comfortable speaking in front of a crowd. For instance, your best friend may be a real hoot, but if she is fearful of public speaking it will not only be uncomfortable for her, but for everyone forced to watch her squirm. Also, make sure anyone chosen to be a part of your wedding planning party clearly understands the atmosphere you desire the day of your wedding. The sound of chirping crickets aren’t the only thing you’ll be thinking about when you’re chosen speaker turns what you had hoped to be an elegant wedding speech into an episode of Hee Haw!

Wedding Speech Tradition
It seems that much of tradition in our current wedding planning culture has gone the way of the chastity belt. And yet, there are still some of us that seek the romance of tradition. Especially when it comes to weddings!

In the past, it was generally only the father of the bride and the father of the groom who would provide blessings to the new couple. The traditional list of wedding speeches has changed over time to include:

  • The Father of the Bride — it is an unwritten rule that the father of the bride gives the first wedding speech. His role is to welcome the guests, talk about the couple, and give a toast to the union.
  • The Groom — after the father of the bride welcomes all guests, the groom will then give a toast to his new wife and her family.
  • The Best Man — the best man’s job is to toast the groom and begin the celebration of the reception.
Wedding Speeches Today
Today, a wedding speech can be given by anyone, from your father to a close personal friend. Many couples invite their entire wedding planning party and wedding guests to say a few things during the reception. There seems to be no current model for giving speeches at today’s weddings. This in itself has led many obligated to such a task to feel confused about what to say and how to say it. The doors are wide open for humor and reminiscing, so make sure you let them know what you’re okay with.

The list of speakers you choose in your wedding planning can be as long or short as you choose. As formal or informal as you are comfortable. The most important thing to remember is to be organized. A good way to accomplish this is to assign a toastmaster. A toastmaster will be responsible for introducing all wedding speakers at the time you have allotted, which will cut down on confusion and keep speakers comfortable and knowing what to expect.

Once wedding speeches are complete, a toastmaster will then open the floor to guests to say a few words (if this is what you wish.) The toastmaster will be responsible for making sure this flows properly, as well.

As is true from the time we are born, our family and friends are a piece of us. They represent who we are, all of the similarities and the differences. Make sure you don’t put too much pressure on those you have chosen to give a wedding speech. The likelihood that they will be experiencing some sort of fear, with public speaking topping the phobia list, is pretty good. Give them the freedom to speak from their heart and you will not go wrong.